Self-Care vs Doing For Self

I’m not going to lie, folks.

It’s been a minute since I’ve written one of these.

So I’m happy to be back giving you all value.

So why now? What’s so special about this topic to bring me to write again?

For those who have worked with me know I do what I do to the fullest. Going above and beyond for my clients is GP (general practice).

The other day I had a video call with a remote client who’s going through it. Understandably, they took time off the training program to handle their situation and did what they needed to do to keep it going.

Some days it meant ordering pizza; yoga, stretching, gaming, binging some movies, etc.

Yet. The anxiety still remained.

Upon our conversation, they understood their actions were self-described as “self-care”. Even though deep down, the lack of satisfaction remained.

Now I’m no therapist (even though going through my own therapy and 14+ years in the biz certainly makes me a mental health advocate), however, it seemed they were “doing what they needed to do”.

NOT what they wanted to do.

This was a breakthrough and a newfound understanding of what needs to happen arrived.

So now that you have a better understanding of where this is coming from. Let’s dive into it.

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As a health and wellness advocate, I hear this term thrown around a lot. It doesn’t matter what it is (as long as it’s not hurting anyone), if you need to do it then you should do it.

All of 2020 has pushed people into therapy, coaching, and lots and lots of YouTubing and reading for self-help/self-improvement.

If you’re reading this and that’s you. I salute you.

However, observable reality has shown me that “self-care” is merely a spark to the flame that allows you to keep doing what you need to do.

In the conversation I mentioned earlier with my client, they took the actions needed to go to work and function.

For them, self-care meant having the ability to go to work.

Going to work allows them to have an income.

The income is used to have a sustainable lifestyle and fund their training and provide security.

Makes sense to me! No doubt, that’s foundational.

But there’s more to it than that: Doing what makes you HAPPY.

This leads me to my next point…


It might sound strange, but self-care isn’t necessarily what will bring you happiness and satisfaction.

It’s important to understand,

Doing what you want for yourself that you look forward to is essential to a fulfilling life.

You’ll notice when you do what you want for yourself on your own time.

With little to no effort.

With excitement.

You just feel different.

You feel fulfilled. It’s no amusement park necessarily, but you almost feel like…you’re having fun.

So when you do for yourself, your whole energy changes.

THAT’s how you know you’re truely doing [what you want] for yourself.

The Take Away

Make no mistake. Self-care is essential. So think of it like this:

INVEST in self-care so you can SPEND time and energy doing what you want.

That being said, to have a fulfilling life you absolutely need both. To have a good balance of these requires work and getting into uncomfortable situations of the unknown.

With so much going on, one of the most important things you can do is simply prioritize.


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When you opt to go with what’s comfortable, you lose at the end of the day.

You must be a risk-taker.

You must get out of the house.

You must go and do what you know and feel is necessary to reach a different level in your life.

To do this, you must move with urgency and arm yourself with enough information to make calculated decisions.

This is how the most successful and happiest people move (regardless of what your definition of success is).

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