Ever since I began this journey, I’ve always believed I could get to this point. How cool it would be sitting here writing to all of you my “I’m-a-veteran-in-my-field-so-here-are-my-lessons-over-the-years” article.
The hard part was waiting for it to show up.
Once I decided what and who I wanted to be in this world and what I wanted to do, I knew change was imminent. What I didn’t know was exactly what it was going to take and how scary it was going to be.
The stats said that I had an 80% chance that I was going to quit within 5 years into the Personal Training biz. The cards were already stacked against me it seemed: I took my A.C.E.-CPT exam 4 times before finally passing it by 13 points, I had only 10 academic credits of Kinesiology courses under my belt; I was one of a few male minorities in the business in my area and with a University Studies degree in Sociology.
And now many years later, bestowing the wisdom from all the great and not-so-great decisions I’ve made that got me to this point. Hopefully this inspires you to make mistakes worth making to get you to where you want to be in life.
Lesson #1-EMBRACE ADVERSITY
I learn best when I make mistakes. To me life lessons are the best way to navigate through life. Parent’s tell you not to put your hand over the stove, but let’s be real, sometimes you want to put your hand over the stove anyway to realize how hot it is for yourself. This is what my dad calls, “being hardheaded”.
Ultimately, I take that approach with my clients. I know I can’t keep them from doing what they want, but when they do what they want and it doesn’t go well we can then reflect on the experience and move forward. Being open and real with your own struggles allows you to empathize because you’ve “been there before”.
Circa 2007: Before I became a trainer, I worked behind the desk. Fun Times.
Don’t worry about appearing to be perfect. Things like injuries and overindulging in food will happen. Life happens. It’s all about how you work through and around it. If you can do that for yourself, you will be better off helping the people around you.
Lesson #2-REPUTATION IS EVERYTHING
If you’re a crappy trainer, people are going to know about it. If you’re a great trainer, people are going to know about it too. Which one do you think would get more clients? You might think there’s not a lot of room for error. Everyone has the ability to learn and get better if they’re open to it. In my experience, the difference maker is who you are as a person.
You might not get the absolute best results on paper, but if you care enough about your people they’ll eventually want to stick with you for years.
Lesson #3- THERE’S A DIFFERENCE BETWEEN ” I TRAIN PEOPLE TO HELP THEM GET BETTER” VS. ” I TRAIN PEOPLE TO GET PAID”
One of the biggest reasons why most trainers don’t make it past the 5 year mark is because they can’t make it work for them financially. Ultimately, their heart isn’t in the right place. I’ll admit this industry is not for the light-hearted. It certainly isn’t for those who are looking to live a lavish life, make a ton of cash and party every weekend.
You absolutely have to put your time, effort and energy into your clients well-being. “They don’t care about what you know until they know how much you care.” Sure, Personal Trainer is a title and a lot of people can call themselves that if they want.
But to be a COACH is so much more than a certification or academic achievement.
Lesson #4- GET A MENTOR OR COACH THAT’S BEEN WHERE YOU WANT TO BE
Who didn’t have someone to look up to growing up. We may not realize it, but we have mentors all around us. You might consider a teacher you’ve had in school, a family member, friend or co-worker. No matter what we know, we’ve learned from someone who knows more and have had the experience.
For me, early on it was guys like Mike Robertson, Tony Gentilcore, Eric Cressey, Ben Bruno, Molly Galbraith; listening to The FitCast with Kevin Larrabee, Jonathan Fass and Leigh Peele (yeah, that far back). Even my first boss in the biz, Kristen Nesvacil when I started at the Rec at my alma mater was a huge influence.
With Molly Galbraith after the Train Like A Girl 2 Seminar
Private Coaching Seminar with Mike Robertson at IFAST
On top of that, being able to see folks like these up front and speak to them in person was life changing. Having them tell me that I can email them and hold a conversation and ask questions really helped me along the way. I can only hope to contribute to the industry in a positive way like these Superstars.
Lesson #5- YOU HAVE TO WALK THE WALK
I’ve went back and forth with this for several years. At first, I believed you had to look the part to be a trainer. But then I learned that looking the part was only the half of it. So I realized that you have to know your shit more than looking the part. Well…some people are influenced by what they see. If they can’t get past that part, they won’t give a shit if you’re a genius or not. If YOU don’t look like you take care of yourself, why would they think you can help them?
That being said, the phrase “the truth lies somewhere in the middle” applies here. You’re better off knowing your shit AND looking good while doing it. It makes you more marketable that way.
There are tons of trainers/coaches everywhere. In my town, there are over 100 licensed Personal Trainers. So, how else do you separate yourself from the pack?…
Lesson #6- “GET REALLY FUCKING GOOD AT WHAT YOU DO AND LET EVERYONE KNOW ABOUT IT”
A quote from Jon Goodman that I live and die by. I realized in this industry I have the autonomy to be creative and let my personality flourish. After all, people don’t buy personal training sessions, they invest their time in the person coaching them. It behoved me to learn not just from other coaches on how to help people…but learn from the people I coach. Talking to them about what their goals are; their fears going into training, their struggles. Learning what makes them tick. That’s when you get really start to separate yourself. Putting together programs is a big part of it. That’s the easy part. The hard part that I want to see trainers pay more attention to, is to put more of an effort into understanding their clients better mentally and emotionally.
Not everyone enjoys being yelled at, yet some do. Not everyone enjoys doing heavy squats and deadlifts, yet some look forward to it. Simply creating an open and trusting space for folks to talk about things and get if off their chest will make all the difference. From that point, they’ll be talking about how awesome you are to their friends and family at the dinner table.
Lesson #7- IF YOU’RE NOT GROWING, YOU’RE DYING
Continuing education is vital to staying alive in a forever growing industry. Fitness/Training as we know it today has only been around for 60+ years. With technology improving, so have methods to improve medicine and helping people live longer. Being on the cutting edge of fitness is not only smart…it’s the responsible thing to do.
Me and The G.O.A.T.: Ed Coan
You don’t have to implement everything you learn right away. It’s easy to throw the baby out with the bathwater when you’ve had your mind blown when Ed Coan says your deadlifts look good, and then proceed to make everyone deadlift the way you do come Monday morning. Exercises are like tools in a tool box. Simply, use a movement to address a problem when it’s appropriate. You don’t need to scrap the whole program. Especially when it works and your clients enjoy the workouts (..of course they won’t tell you that while they’re doing it. They’re too busy cursing at you in their heads…or out loud :).
Lesson #8- PERSONAL TRAINING ISN’T GOING ANYWHERE
One-on-one at one point seemed like it was going out the door. Many of the top influencers in the industry were calling for the death of Personal Training and praising small group/semi-private training.
Is group training cost-effective for the client? Yes.
Is it time efficient for the coach? Yes.
Is it potentially more fun for both the client AND coach? It definitely can be.
Though, like exercises, there’s a time and a place for everything. Personally, I thoroughly enjoy one-on-one private training. I love the person-to-person connection and have a better experience understanding on an individual level. More importantly, there’s just something about having a coach personalize EVERYTHING for you. From your program to your overall training experience. I can proudly say that I still stay connected with many of my TWD (Train With Donovan) clients. Mostly because I’ve invested the time and energy to each person that is invaluable.
In addition, schedules are more flexible. Typically in group, you have the accountability of maintaining a standing time. If people don’t show, they’re S.O.L. Which is a nice feature on it’s own. For me, I find more and more people WANTING individualized training. I wouldn’t be surprised if it’s because that’s the energy I put out or what. But if Personal Training died, it’s been revived.
Lesson #9- NEVER OFFER A SUPPLEMENT YOU HAVEN’T TRIED/RESEARCHED
This can be damaging. Maybe even a little dangerous. It’s real easy to buy into a supplement that is well marketed. That being said, it may not be what you’re looking for. It may not even be the same supplement as advertised as far as results are concerned. There’s a famous scene in the documentary “Bigger, Faster, Stronger” where Chris Bell (the director) creates his own supplement with the help of a few people by putting sugar in capsules. Slap a label on a bottle. Boom. Instant supplements.
This isn’t to scare you from taking supplements. If anything, it should drive you to DO YOUR RESEARCH!! I utilize the website Examine.com. A “fully independent…education company that looks at the research-nothing more, nothing less.” Pretty sweet right?
So, do you absolutely HAAAAVE to take a supplement before you offer it to your client? Absolutely not. In fact, it’s a bit overboard. The point is to have the mindset of educating yourself to better serve the people you’re working with. Even if you don’t have the answers, you should definitely have the resources to find them.
Lesson #10- ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS BELIEVE IN YOURSELF
Earlier I’ve talked about some of the obstacles that life has to offer. I’ll be lying to you if my job wasn’t in the top 3 things I care about. That isn’t uncommon. Lot’s of people would say their job is in the top 5 of most important things in their lives. For me, it’s more than what’s “important”. I facking love it.
When you believe in yourself you believe anything is POSSIBLE. You’ll want to learn more. You’ll fall in love with the process; when you get past a milestone or significant event, you’ll want to go back to work and get better. The idea of waking up everyday and getting better and euphoric. It’s the mindset that makes you great; before any action you take or words you speak. Everything starts with your thought process.
I leave you with this: Always be kind to yourself and to others. Strive for excellence in everything you do. Often what we think and say to ourselves is the deciding factor. You don’t do things to suck at it intentionally, right? So say to yourself what you CAN do and what you WILL do. It makes all the difference. And when you decide to help people reach their goals, they’ll benefit from it and you’ll have a lot more fun doing it too.
Here’s to the next 10 years.
This past weekend, I competed at the USPA Power Surge 2017 Powerlifting competition in Carol Stream, IL. It was at a Holiday Inn. In a conference room.
The Weigh-In and Post Weigh-In Meal
I’ve been keeping track every day the week of the meet to see how much I need to dial back on the sodium and carbs. The last few days leading up to the weigh-in are the hardest, especially when you have to do a cut. I’ve been walking around fluctuating between 215-225lbs when I train. Since I know I will weigh-in between 9am-noon, I’ve checked once or twice each day between those times to get a realistic idea of what I might need to do if I’m over the 220 limit.
Though after years of competing I know that I lose water weight fairly fast when I stop lifting (when prepping for the competition). I chose to weigh-in in the morning so I can have the rest of the day to eat.
I drove 2 hours North to weigh-in and headed back to my apartment so I can sleep in my own bed. To me it was worth it and far less expensive (hotel + meals + gas). Plus, it was a nice day out and I enjoy driving. It’s calming for me…once you get off the Dan Ryan and out of Chicago!
After weighing-in at 219 I planned to have a protein shake with Magnum protein powder, fruits, peanut butter, OJ, oats and some ice cubes. I also had Pedialyte I picked up from CVS and had my awesome clients make me a batch of protein balls to snack on.
Lunch was a sammich with chips totalling easily over 2000 k/cals and 2 dinners: 2 rolls of sushi and a sirloin steak with 2 sweet potatoes.
My dog hates it when I pack to go places. It makes her nervous and so she defecates, urinate and vomits all over the place and won’t use the bathroom outside. She’s smart like that. Waking up not knowing how it was going to go, I was under some stress. I was also burying my grandmother 2 days after the meet.
Fortunately, I had 2 hours of driving early enough to watch the sunrise. It was just what I needed. Got to the hotel. Checked-in. Set up camp. Rules meeting and then the lifting begins.
One thing I’ve been focused on getting better at was competition-nutrition. Making sure I had enough of the right foods to keep me from cramping and have enough energy to push 100% every lift. Foods high in sodium would keep me from cramping and simple sugars/carbs that are fast acting would keep my energy up when I need it. However, I’m notorious for vomiting before I lift, but I made sure that I wasn’t too full of food coming into the meet.
I made myself another shake for breakfast, loaded with calories, but easily digestible. Especially over a 2hr car ride. I got nervous as I always do, but I didn’t get sick. Diaphragmatic breathing and focusing on being in a parasympathetic system when I’m not about to lift really kept things calm and the food down. My body felt amazing thanks to my Wellness Team: Erica Hartman Massage, Mitchell Family Chiropractic and my Life Coach, Rick Longstreth.
Here’s a video of the full meet:
Squat has become my least favorite lift. With a history of back issues and lack of confidence to go with it, I wasn’t sure how it was going to go. But. I had goals. Sure enough, I fought like hell to get that third lift and I was super excited. It was a 17lb PR.
Bench had become one of my favorite lifts. Mainly because it was my weakest. I had a lot of fun training to get better at it because I knew I would improve dramatically. The best lift in the gym I’ve had was 350 (with a slight pause) a couple years ago shortly before I got injured. I knew I had more in me, but I had goals and I wanted to stick to the plan. I know I’ll achieve another personal best in next years competition whenever that may be. Until then, I’m going to be throwing up some big(ger) weights in the gym [finally].
By far my most favorite lift. Not because it’s the heaviest or the last. But because it’s what the audience (and judges) love to see. Brute strength. Picking up dead weight off the ground! It was a bit emotional for me because the image of my grandmother popped in my head. I failed my first attempt but got the second. The second attempt felt good, though it was 13lbs away from my final lift, which was still under my ultimate goal of 625. Nevertheless, I had made my second lift so it was worth taking the chance.
The meet was very well ran. With a lot of mass and broad shoulders. I wasn’t sure where the warm-up space was going to be. If it was in another room or in the hallway outside of the conference room. No. It was 8-10 feet away from the platform (you can see it in the photos). It was interesting. But. It had a “gym feel” to it; close quarters, 2 warm-up areas. Lots of heavy ass lifting and interesting smells. It wasn’t bad!
It helped that I knew all of the judges and saw them 4 weeks earlier when the gym hosted the Illinois State Championships. That and some Powerlifting Legends showed up. It’s pretty incredible all these people live locally and could watch what was one of the best performances I’ve had yet.
I’ve written down my goals on a post-it note several months earlier after my meet in March. I can proudly say I reached 2 out of the 4 goals I’ve set for myself. Check it out.
What’s great is that I still achieved all lifetime PRs:
Previous All-Time Personal Bests:
Squat 512lbs @196.2lbs (2015)
Bench 319.7lbs @196.2lbs (2015)
Deadlift 600.8lbs @177.8lbs (2013)
Total 1416.5lbs @196.2lbs (2015)
Power Surge 2017 Results:
I qualified for USPA Nationals in Vegas next summer. I’d like to do a push-pull meet sometime before [for fun]. My Squat is something that I really want to continue to work on as I feel it’s my most uncomfortable lift. This way I’ll have time to get my legs bigger and stronger (sorry jeans…It’s about to get real) so my total can be more competitive and get back into the rankings again. This is another reason why I joined the USPA. For the challenge to push myself to be better than ever.
It had been a couple of years since I’ve been able to compete at a high level, but this meet assured me that I’m on the right track.
Conversation before this photo: “Hey, can I get a picture with you guys?” . Eddy: “Hell yeah! Especially after that squat.” Thanks @eddycoan for the kind words. It was otherworldly meeting @jbboss_lifters4lifters and @forsakenwarrior. This is Illinois Powerlifting greatness. @trainhylete @uspapower @uspaillinois @bnafactory @surgetonewlevels #greatness #begreat #alltimegreats #rawpowerlifting
Ever notice that when you do something it’s usually preceded by an emotion/thought? I know it’s trivial, but if we sit back and think on this for a second: we can predict the future by recognizing how we feel in the moment.
Ever been really happy about something? I can recall many times when I’ve had peak days, I usually have the best experiences with my clients and they tend to enjoy their workouts more so than usual. Even my own. And you know what? That usually starts before I even get out of bed.
Likewise, when you’re angry or have had a negative reaction to something, we tend to do or say things that reflect that feeling. It could be the tone in our voice that someone might take the wrong way or affect your cognitive ability to deciding to watch The Notebook. Alone. I’m not saying that happened to me. I’m just saying.
The simplest application of this thought process is the direction in which you go to achieve your goals. Remember the first time you came into the gym and talked to your trainer and you two talked about what it is you wanted to work on?
“I want to squat my bodyweight.”
“I want to not be tired walking up the stars.”
“I want to do a chin-up.”
What happens next?
You start squatting.
You start doing more cardio.
You start doing chin-ups/row variations.
All these actions begin from how you feel from one single moment in time. This feeling could set the course for action for months and years to come.
It boils down to this: if you do something BECAUSE you feel good [about yourself], trust that you’ll experience a positive result. If an action is born from a negative thought, understand that no matter the outcome you’ll be filled with dissatisfaction.
Be mindful of your thoughts and emotions. They say the future isn’t written, but if you really think about it you can get an idea of how it will be manifested.
This is the week of my 30th birthday, one of many milestones this year. This year will also be my 10th year as a trainer/coach. It’s amazing how long it’s been and I’m only getting better. While not many trainers can say that, I wanted to help change that with this video.
Most new trainers are kind of thrown into the wolves when it comes to starting off their careers in the field. The education usually stops when they graduate college. And let’s face it, there’s not really a degree in Personal Training. Personal Training is like shop class, you get good by getting your hands dirty.
With sooo many trainers out there, it’s not good enough to be seen and heard. You have to be good if not great at what you do. One slip up and your client can easily jump ship and onto the next one.
One of the biggest issues that newbies have is knowing how to program workouts for their clients. So, I address the issue in this video.
Please share with any and all new professionals as this concept will pretty much ensure long term success with getting great results and client retention.
Yep. If you’re already a member of a $10 gym you’ve probably noticed the rapid influx of people who want to get “results”. You’ve probably also noticed already that the gym attendance is slowly slowing down.
Nah. Not yet. Wait about a month or so. Give or take.
If you’re wondering what a $10 gym is, it’s not really pertaining to one gym, but rather a kind of gym. As mentioned in this article about how gyms set you up for failure, these gyms typically have massive amounts of cardio machines at the forefront, with the weights section behind it. Nowadays some gyms will even have a pullup rig, sleds, kettlebells and other pieces of equipment way in the back of the building. This is to discourage you from doing the very things (like weight training) that get you sustainable results. Truth be told, some cardio is good, yet cardio with weight training has proven to be even better.
You may find a trainer good enough to hire, but those are one in a million in places like these. With how little they pay trainers, it’s no wonder why the quality of personal training is typically low. These places are also revolving doors for trainers. Usually good for getting started in their careers, getting some experience training real people. However, that also attracts a certain crowd of people.
Ever seen “Gym Fail” videos?? Most likely you’d see some of these moves at your local $10 gym. While they may seen entertaining watching them online, they’re pretty uncomfortable to witness in person. It’s almost like you seem to develop an actual concern for their safety. It’s like watching a scary movie knowing that the killer is in the other room, but the character doesn’t know the killer is in there. You’re left going “NO!!! NO DON’T DO IT!!!!”
Speaking of movies, some of these places have mini movie theaters for you to watch while you’re on your bike. Honestly though, if they play ROGUE ONE in there or Dark Knight Rises…I might be in there before the credits even start just to get the right spot (middle-back of the room is the best).
Now that you know how I REALLY feel about these gyms, I’m one to recognize that it does have a place in this world. I know I know. Hear me out.
If you think about it- 10 bucks is a stupid ridiculously low price for a gym that most likely has some of the latest equipment and some of the top brands. For 10. Fucking. Dollars a month.
To me, that’s an insane opportunity to take advantage of the what you have: top of the line equipment, a fucking cardio theater, sleds, free wifi (it’s the little things), tanning booths, shakes, etc. Yet, for a lot of people, it’s a struggle to go there let alone be in there long enough before you want to take your eyes out with a rusty rake and pour molten lava all over your face.
Though. There is hope.
I’ve been a member at a local $10 gym for several months now. Mostly because the insurance we have has a wellness program that pays for it. Also, they just have stuff my gym doesn’t have and it’s nice to mix it up. When you’ve been coaching as long as I have, it’s like being a kid in a candy store. Of gainz.
“But D, how can you stand going there!? And isn’t that betraying your own gym!?”
I get it, but no. Not even the slightest. If anything, it helps promote my gym to have a 500+ squatter, 330+ bencher and 600+ deadlifter to workout in a place where form turning into baby shit when they pick up the bar is a regular occurrence.
So, I’m going to give you guys some tips on how to survive $10 gyms in your neighborhood.
Tip 1: Hire you a damn good trainer (Somewhere else)
As I’ve mentioned before- trainers who don’t get paid very well, don’t tend to be all that great. Especially when you pay to go to a gym that costs about the same as the manager special at the Asian Market at HYVEE for 2 entrees-2 appetizers-1 side. You’re likely to get better results from that meal after doing a Les Mills class for 15 hours.
The average trainer costs $1/minute. Emphasis on the “average” part. I believe you get what you pay for. I’m by no means the most expensive trainer, but you definitely want one that has the utmost confidence in their ability to help you. Some trainers don’t charge as much as they should and it’s a shame. I don’t particularly enjoy asking folks to hand over hundreds of dollars a month. So you better be damn sure I’m going to give them the most bang for their buck.
Hiring a good trainer to teach you the basics is invaluable. In a place like my gym, you don’t have as many “toys” much as a commercial gym. Which is perfect because you’re getting results with using less. After several months or years of training under your belt from a master pro, like meself ;), you’ll be able to walk into any gym and would train better than everyone in the building.
As a bonus- you can actually begin to see what others are doing and feel what we feel as coaches. Like I said before it can be tough to watch, but it gives you a sense of pride and confidence knowing the difference between right and wrong. Hiring a trainer my seem expensive at first, but when you put it in this context, your dollar will go a long long ways for years to come.
Tip 2: Go in with a plan
You’ve most likely hit this part with your coach you’ve hired already. Going into a gym that gives you anxiety not from just the people, but the amount of equipment they have can overload the senses. If you have a well thought out plan, you can avoid some obstacles. Get your workout in and get out.
For instance, don’t plan on doing bench on Mondays. Why? Because Monday is “National Bench Day”. I wish I was joking. For the most part, gym members and meatheads everywhere have adopted this idea. This means that there will likely not be a bench available in sight. So, that’s why you’re going to squat on Monday. Boom. Problem solved.
And if you find a bro in the squat rack doing bicep curls with your squat bar. You call the police.
As the years go by, slowly people are getting off the cardio machines and getting more into the weight room. So it’s a plus, I’ll admit that. However, we’re still in the early stages of this evolution and the fuckery that I see people using free weights is downright inhumane. Most people won’t be doing the basics: pull-ups/chin-ups, pushups, row variations; corrective movements like pallof presses and breathing exercises. The space and equipment needed for those are likely going to be open for you at just about anytime. Take advantage. Make it simple. Keep it simple.
Tip 3: Go at the least busiest times
I know scheduling can be tough. Several years ago, I said I wouldn’t get up before 6am. Now I’m getting up before 4 some days because we don’t have a doggy door or a fenced in yard. We have wooden floors and their nails make for an interesting alarm clock. Some days, they don’t wanna get up either.
For me, I have the flexibility to go late morning/early afternoon as most people are at work. That is probably the most peaceful time. And honestly, people get after it. It’s going to take some trial and error, but once you find that time make sure you stick with it.
Tip 4: Bring your headphones I hate people watching. It’s weird for me. Yet some people like it. Though what are you gonna do when they make eye contact with you. See you. Walk over and try to talk to you. And you don’t have your headphones in. Now you’re going to have to not only focus on your workout, but figure out a way to get out of this situation. For me, music works like a pre-workout.
One day I was done lifting and turned off the music and some slow jams was playing. Followed by “I’m A Barbie Girl”. Great song. For getting ready to go out Friday night. You find that one track or playlist and you’re off. This past week, I’ve been listening to Daft Punk Live Tour “Alive 2007” album. For some reason, it went from my warm-up playlist to getting me through all the way to my cardio workout.
Also, switching to wireless headphones makes a huge difference. I love wireless headphones during training. It makes life a little easier and you don’t feel as restricted. That being said the headphones provides protection against conversation vultures in the middle of your set and the music gives you a boost.
Other than that, having a gym bag so you’re not holding everything in your hands and carrying it around the gym with you is a must. You can put your towel in there (in case they don’t have a towel service), your headphone case, keys, pre/post workout shaker, excess layers of clothing, etc. You don’t have to go to a wickedly awesome-bad ass of a gym like The Bloomington Normal Athlete Factory to get the best workout of your life….
Baahahahahaha of course you do!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
In all seriousness, the world can be your gym. You just need to have a plan and the right equipment to execute that plan. Keep your focus. Enjoy your training and the life around you! Let’s get after it!!
How can you get ahead if you can’t let go of the things holding you back? Everyone is disciplined enough to get what they’re currently getting. Direct that focus towards what your goals are and you’ll achieve them. Thrive on. 2017 is still up for grabs. . . #discipline #motivationmonday #Focus #Fitspo #Fitfam #Success #NoExcuses #TrainWithDonovan #Confidence #PersonalTraining #motivation #youcandoit #staypositive #dreambig
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As a trainer, I can see a lot of the things in the world that I can help. Even as I go to commercial gyms and see so many things that leave me speechless. It reminds me of a scene in the show “Fargo”-
A storyteller tells another character a story of a rich man:
“A rich man reads the paper one day. He see’s that the world is in misery. The rich man says ‘I have money! I can help!’ So, he gives away ALL of his money. But. It’s not enough. The people are still suffering.
One day the man reads another article. He sees it was foolish to give away all of his money as the world didn’t have enough organ donors. So, he goes to the doctor and says ‘doctor, I want to donate a kidney.’ The doctors do the surgery. It was a complete success.
After he know’s he should heal good, he doesn’t. He knows people are still suffering. So he goes back to the doctor. He says, ‘doctor…I want to give it all.’ The doctor says, ‘what does that mean? Give it all?’
The man says ‘ I want to donate my liver, but not just my liver I want to donate my heart. I want to donate my corneas, but not just my corneas. I want to give it ALL away. Everything I am. All that I have.’
The doctor says, ‘A kidney is one thing, but you can’t give away all of it. That suicide!’ He sends the man home.
But the man cannot live. He knows the people are suffering. So he gives the one thing he has left. He writes “organ donor” on the bathroom wall. Sits in a tub. And ends his life. On the man’s tombstone it reads “Here lies the man who gave everything.”
The character asks “And does it work? Does it stop the suffering?? Did he kill himself for nothing?? What are you trying to say?”
The storyteller goes “Only a fool thinks he can try to solve ALL the world’s problems.”
But the character goes “But you have to try don’t you?”
On one hand, I believe I have the tools and resources needed to help people. Though, I also know I can’t help everyone (and more importantly, not everyone WANTS my help). People need to understand while it sounds great to give the world everything you have, you can’t give it all away.
Don’t spread yourself thin. One person can’t solve the world’s problems, but the world [together] can. Just like one person can solve their own problems. Sometimes with the help of others.
Remember to ask yourself when you’re stressed out taking care of everyone else but you: How can anyone rely on you when you have nothing left to give??
December has been a great month. The last couple months have been pretty challenging, but with challenge comes a lesson to be learned. Taking that into consideration, December proved to be much better. Lots of [good] challenges with positive outcomes made life a lot more enjoyable. Here’s what I’ve learned to close out 2016.
How you train for short term goals should be different from long term goals
This doesn’t mean that you should do different exercises or go down a different path. I’m a MAKE IT SIMPLE kind of guy. I didn’t get where I am doing the most complex things ever. The same things that I started out with in my training experience are the same things I’ve done to get me on the world stage and thereafter. The biggest piece to this puzzle is to make sure you have your short term goals and long term goals in priority. For instance, if you have a meet in March, doing a peaking phase NOW would be ill advised. If your goal is to be at the top of your game AT the time of the meet, being at the height of your strength at a time when it doesn’t matter typically would be counter-intuitive to why you’d do a meet in the first place.
Long term goals should be designed to keep your current training in check. There’s nothing wrong with shooting for the starts and only hitting the clouds. The point is that you’re going in the right direction. Short term goals are like little checkpoints. Think of them as little building blocks to build towards something much larger (the long term goal).
Supplements for back pain (muscle soreness): Magnesium Citrate
This past month my body has been the healthiest it’s been in a while without any compensations or lingering pain. I attribute that to a smart training approach, better hydration, increased emphasis on [consistent] mobility and recovery methods. Along with efficient intake of magnesium. Earlier in the year, I had a huge back injury as you may very well know. My life coach recommended magnesium in the form of magnesium citrate based on his personal experiences.
If you’ve skipped nutrition or science class in school, magnesium is an essential mineral found in food. Hell, farmers feed that stuff to their crops! Magnesium is an essential dietary mineral, and the second most prevalent electrolyte in the human body. Magnesium deficiencies are common in developed countries. A deficiency increases blood pressure, reduces glucose tolerance and causes neural stimulation.
According to Examine.com, “Magnesium deficiencies are common in the western diet because grains are poor sources of magnesium. Other prominent sources of magnesium, like nuts and leafy vegetables, are not eaten as often. It is possible to fix a magnesium deficiency through dietary changes. If magnesium is supplemented to attenuate a deficiency, it acts as a sedative, reducing blood pressure and improving insulin sensitivity.”
I’m a huge meat eater, in case you didn’t know, and not many veggies make the trip to my Tupperware container. For me, the best way to get veggies in are in the form of frozen steam-able veggies. They’re typically 5 for $5 just about any grocery store. It’s legit. However, I supplement my diet with magnesium citrate at night before and after a training session to help keep my muscles and nerves calm. Magnesium is also in coffee, but coffee isn’t a veggie. That beings said, it really does make a difference where you get your vitamins and minerals from. Keep that in mind.
The Key to meeting great people is to do great things
The greatest thing about my job is helping people improve themselves. The other part is meeting great people. People who make a difference in the lives of others; C.E.Os, VPs, Executives, Community Organizers, Entrepreneurs, etc. I’ve visited and talked to some of the best of the best in their field and learned their pattern of success. I truly believe you surround yourself with the people who you want to become. Earlier this past month I met with the President of The 100 Black Men of Central Illinois to talk about what I can do for the organization and how he can help me take my business acumen to the next level. From the website:
“With a mission to improve the quality of life and enhance educational opportunities for African Americans, members of the 100 continue to serve as a strong force in the world by overcoming the cultural and financial obstacles that have limited the achievements of some African Americans, particularly young African American males. Members of the 100 have made outstanding progress, proving that Blacks can, and do, excel as corporate leaders, community leaders and as independent business owners.”
As a result from the meeting, I was able to sit in and participate in the quarterly not-for-profit meeting with many of the organizations in the McLean County area (where I live) to update the goings on of all the business and collaborate. It was an amazing experience being the only representative not just from my gym, but as the only fitness professional in the room. I may not run a not-for-profit business, but sure enough there were several business reps that wanted to talk to me about some opportunities they could see about collaborating with me or the gym. It confirmed that I was doing what I should be doing being in that room with so many outstanding individuals and businesses doing outstanding things. I look forward to following up with these people and doing great things in 2017.
The Best To Do What They Do Go Through Great Pain
I was on my way to work one day listening to Tony Hawk speak on a podcast about how some kids today don’t really like to skateboard because they keep falling off. This is a guy who broke his teeth out, broke bones, and had concussions just to name a few. This is also the same man who turned pro at 14; revolutionized the sport and has been a spokesman for skateboarding since the 80’s (and still skates by the way at age 48). Hell, even I played Tony Hawk Underground back in the day on the PS1.
This made me remember all the injuries I’ve had during my Powerlifting Career: pulled muscles, compressed and herniated disc in my back, ripped off finger nails, injuries so bad I couldn’t put shoes or socks on. The definition of Passion is to suffer. But who prosper are the ones who push through it.
Even as I sit here still as a Personal Trainer coming up on 10 years in the profession, I’ve had some rough experiences that would make the 80-90% turnover rate of Personal Trainers seem eminent for me.
Once your skillset surpasses your passion it really sets you apart from the aforementioned percentage of those who bail on the profession.
Whether it’s Personal Training or skateboarding or whatever it is you do in life, your defining moment is when you’ve gone through some pain. The pain makes it real. It makes you think critically about what you are doing and want to do in your life. You also are in a great position to learn from it. Which leads me to my last reflection.
My 2016 reflections
There’s been some thought-provoking fuckery going on this year (and it’s still not over yet). From this view of the world, there seems to be a lot of forced change that is happening. And I love it. No, I don’t enjoy all the deaths and the murders, and the people getting hurt, but as I’ve said before- pain makes it real. I think many of us have been living in a world where we’ve gotten real comfortable (including me). It takes adversity and some really scary shit to wake us up and decide to take action.
Taking action in our personal lives, professional lives and beyond. It’s all about action. I’ve seen a lot of that and it’s glorious. Some say the greatest time in American History is when shit hits the fan. When stress is at an all-time high something happens inside us that unlocks the code in our genes that allows us to survive the fallout and we evolve. I believe that is necessary for us to continue and live. For Christ sake- the freaking Chicago Cubs won the World Series, people (still unbelievable)!!!
That being said, there’s been no great triumph without great tragedy. It’s what keeps us grounded. For me, throughout all the injuries, the ebb and flows of the training business and personal challenges, 2016 has been a phenomenal year for overall growth.
The great thing about going into a new year is that once the clock strikes 12, it doesn’t stop there. You don’t get a “brand new” start. The same things can and WILL keep happening until you decide to make a change. Otherwise, “2016” doesn’t really end. For most people 2007 or 1998 hasn’t really “ended” because they’re still carrying some of that stuff with them. All things take time. I get it. Yet- how can we really be able to enjoy the moment if we’re constantly living in the past? It’s something we all need to learn how to do if we want to live a fulfilling life.
2017 is really shaping up to be a great year. If you’re reading this and you don’t agree, you might need to ask yourself why. How is it that we are all going into the “New Year” and already decided it’s going to be a shitty year? “They who think it and speak it, believe it. Therefore it is truth”…or something like that. The difference between what you believe things are vs. what you want them to be is action. But action requires thought. So be mindful of what you think about coming into 2017.
Take the lemons that 2016 has thrown at you and turn it into wine and leave everyone else in awe wondering how the fuck you just did that. Best wishes to all of your in 2017.
Peace and Chicken grease.